Supporting Someone After a Suicide Attempt

If you need support right now: call Samaritans free on 116 123 (24/7), text SHOUT to 85258, or call 999 in an emergency.

Discovering that someone you care about has tried to end their life can be devastating. You may feel shock, grief, hurt, anger and guilt — sometimes all at once. All of these feelings are normal, and none of them make you a bad supporter.

You are far from alone in this: suicide attempts are far more common than deaths by suicide, and behind each one is a person in deep pain — and around them, people who love them and want to help.

How do I support someone after a suicide attempt?

Supporting someone through this takes understanding, patience, empathy and compassion. There is no perfect script, but these foundations help:

• Listen actively. Let them talk without judgement or interruption. You don't need to fix everything — being heard is powerful in itself.
• Take it seriously, calmly. Avoid blame or ultimatums. Your steadiness helps them feel safe.
• Offer practical help. Lifts to appointments, meals, company — small acts carry real weight in the difficult early days.
• Learn about suicidal ideation. Understanding why people experience suicidal thoughts makes it easier to respond with compassion rather than fear.
• Help them build a safety plan. A simple, written plan for difficult moments — who to call, where to go — can be a lifeline.
  

Trusted guides for supporting someone after a suicide attempt

These organisations have produced excellent, free resources:

• Mind - detailed information including how to talk to someone about their suicide attempt, tips to help them cope, and organisations that can help
• Hector's House - useful guidance and resources, including a comprehensive guide to supporting someone following a suicide attempt or a mental health crisis
• The NHS - provide guidance on where to get urgent support for mental health, including a link to the Staying Safe website which guides you through making a safety plan for yourself or if you are supporting someone else
• Samaritans - guide you through supporting someone with suicidal thoughts, including helpful videos from Samaritans volunteers
• Grassroots  - their Stay Alive app is a pocket suicide prevention resource for the UK, packed full of useful information to help you or someone you know stay safe

If you're worried the person may be at immediate risk again, please go straight to our I Need Help Now page or call 999

How do I look after myself while supporting them?

Caring for someone after a suicide attempt is emotionally demanding, and your wellbeing matters too. Talk to someone you trust about how you're feeling, keep up your own routines, and accept help when it's offered.

Remember that you are not responsible for another person's recovery — you are one important part of their support, alongside professionals, family and friends. Our I'm Worried About Someone page has more guidance on caring for others without burning out.

There is real hope

Most people who attempt suicide and receive support go on to live full lives. Recovery is rarely a straight line, but with compassion, connection and professional help, people do come through — and your presence genuinely helps.

If you'd like to get in touch with The Jordan Legacy, email hello@thejordanlegacy.com.